This post comes to you thanks to a phone call from a friend of mine the other day. How we can all fall trap to the 'P' word.
Let's face it, we've all feel victim to that black hole at one time or another, so I decided to share my thought's. It can be fun for a short while doing those thing's that you don't normally get to do and relaxing for longer than usual, but you can have too much of a good thing! Once it turn's ugly it's hard to turn back. I hope you enjoy this post, help is on it's way! This also gives me an excuse to dig out some note's I made on a webinar by Zohra Sawari not too long ago; "Time Management for Muslim's" (21/01/2012 23:00 GMT).
- When we don't understand the difference between urgent and important - misunderstanding priorities
- When we are overwhelmed by the task (or having too many at once) so we put it off
- No interest or have a dislike of the task
- Fear of failure
- Bad organisation skill's and lack of planning
- Perfectionist's, if you feel only an 'A+' is accepted or if you feel the need to excel at everything
- Personal problem's or being pre-occupied with emotional trouble's, (Grief, Boredom, Stress, Tiredness, Guilt, Anger, Frustration, Lack of Concentration)
- Low self esteem
- No clear, set goal's
“Do the thing and you will have the power.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Imam Al Ghazali (May Allah have mercy on him) wrote this in his book: 'The Beginning of Guidance'
"You should not neglect your time or use it haphazardly; on the contrary you should bring yourself to account, structure your litanies and other practices during each day and night, and assign to each period a fixed and specific function. This is how to bring out the spiritual blessing (barakah) in each period.
But if you leave yourself adrift, aimlessly wandering as cattle do, not knowing how to occupy yourself at every moment, your time will be lost. It is nothing other than your life, and your life is the capital that you make use of to reach perpetual felicity in the proximity of God the Exalted.
Each of your breaths is a priceless jewel, since each of them is irreplaceable and, once gone, can never be retrieved. Do not be like that deceived fools who are joyous because each day their wealth increases while their life shortens.
What good is an increase in wealth when life grows ever shorter? Therefore be joyous only for an increase in knowledge or in good works, for they are your two companions who will accompany you in your grave when your family, wealth, children and friends stay behind."
- Acceptance! Accept that you are procrastinating, because as soon as you spot it, you can do something about it!
- Know that you need to get it done; PRIORITISE. Otherwise there will be consequences that you could have avoided
- Learn to delegate task's if you feel overwhelmed (get the children involved!), and plan out what you want to achieve in that day/week/month/year
- Reward yourself after completing a task
- Remember to do it for the sake of Allah (SWT) and don't forget to make Dua for help!
- Have the vision and then work out how you will complete the task in hand
- Have patience, don't over do it. Little by little is better than nothing at all e.g. learning Arabic. The brain can only take in so much in a certain amount of time. Work smarter - not harder
- Give yourself a time frame or realistic deadline to get a task done; create a schedule! You'd be surprised at what you can do in 24 hour's!
- Be aware of time stealer's and idle activities e.g. too much time on the internet
- Remember that you will be asked how you spent your time in this world, how do you want to answer that question?? Narrated Abdullah Bin Mas`ud Allah's Messenger said, “ A man shall be asked concerning four things on the day of resurrection: concerning his life, how he spent it; concerning his youth, how he grew old; concerning his wealth, whence he acquired it, and in what way he spent it; and what was it that he did with the knowledge that he had.” (Tirmidhî 5197)
"Do you know what really makes you tired? The things you don’t do, not the things you do!From Get More Done in Less Time by Donna Otto.
Procrastination–worrying about the things you need to get done, putting them off because you dread them or because you would rather be doing something else–makes you tired, not work.”
Of course scrubbing the floor, cleaning the bathroom and making dinner will make you tired but that's a physically, well earned, hard working type of exhaustion not mental fatigue. Plus once you have all those chore's done, it's easier to let go and relax as you can see the result's of a hard days work infront of you. Time to chill on the sofa with a good book and a twinning's tea! Whereas if you leave all the thing's on your to-do list unchecked then there's a big fat cloud of procrastination hanging over you, and that is not budging until you do something about it.