Tuesday, 5 October 2010

The Muslim Bedroom

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

A new website has been formed to help Muslims with marital relationships The Muslim Bedroom.

There is nothing haram on the website so you can view in comfort. It is for Muslims so will inshallah stay within halal bounds. Sisters can sign up for the womens newsletter and vice versa.

For a long time it has been a 'taboo' topic however the divorce rate within Islam is increasing by the year so something needs to be done ASAP.

Marriage is not an easy ride, whoever says that it's a 'doddle' is blatantly lying to your face. It takes two to work at, you will have disagreements, misunderstandings every now and then but when you are both on the same page as each other in happiness, it's worth every single effort.

We know that Islam is not just a religion, it is a way of life. We learn the etiquittes of eating, praying, using the bathroom etc so why do we stop when it comes down to 'it'? If you do not know already, there is an incredible amount of reward to be earned when you and your spouse are together. It's one thing that helps the human body spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

I feel this should be a subject which is spoken about more often (in modesty of course). Implemented in segregated sexes as we need to keep hayah to be true Muslims. I would like to help my sisters with this as it is such an important part of marriage. Communication is absolute key, but do it in the right way (time and place and all that). I have been married for over 5 years alhamdulilah so if you do have a question then inshallah I will do my best to help you inshallah.

I want to point out that it isn’t just some Muslims who are (dare i say it) ‘clueless’ about this subject but it can be about any culture, race, religion – take a look at the show 'Sex & the city'. They made six whole series on it. Coming from the west - it isn’t just Muslims that need a little education!

Especially when you compare the birth rates between Muslims and any other religion, study hadith on treatment of the wife etc Islam trumps all others subhanallah.

There is also a book on relations which was written way back in the 15th century by Sheikh Nefzawi called The perfume garden

More biology lessons which touch on this would help. I know in the middle east (just one example) there is rarely a Sex Ed class given. I see this as a failure due to how the east is currently merging into the west with copying certain antics (but that’s another post altogether!). May Allah guide the Ummah inshallah

When people know what they can and can’t do it’s much better than not trying at all and having a lousy time or worse yet, doing something wrong or even haram and wonder what the problem is.

If you want to talk to someone or organise a circle on this subject then try to do that if it will help and you will all be able to learn together (again, in modesty as we don't want to immitate kaffir). However the best thing to do would be to talk to the other half and see what they think of the situation and i'm sure you will have alot to talk about.

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